Am I a failure with girls?
I am 21 never kissed a girl. About a year ago, this girl had a crush on me. We spent a lot of time together, and just had very similar interests, expecially life goals and interests such as scuba diving, traveling etc. I had a hunch she liked me at the time, but was too shy to do anything about it. She ended up going out with another guy whom she is currently dating.
A few months ago, I ran into her for the first time in a while because we are in the same club. I ended up asking her out on facebook about a week later. I felt so bad about this, but it was a horrible night. I was having a panic attack, and was extremely lonely from being trapped in a single room with a *** roommate. I also had to withdraw from the previous semester in college to save my grades after some poor class decisions and a poor rooming situation. I lost my whole social network in the process. The point is I was desperate, had thought about her all year, and then acted without any judgement one night during a panic attack. Am I extremely lame for doing this??? She apparently thought so because she completely changed after it happened. She wouldn’t say hi to me anymore, completely went out of her way to ignore me, basically quit the club we were both in. Basically she hates me now.
I suffer from extreme anxiety, and can’t stop thinking about this. It’s not everyday, but it comes and goes. This was the first girl that ever really liked me, and the first girl I actually liked as well. The problem was I screwed everything up, and lost my dignity with her in the process. Am I just a failure with girls??? I don’t feel that most people learn from messing up this bad with girls. I also don’t meet people very often, so I try to cling on to people when I do meet them, but end up messing up soo bad. I am told that I am emotionally immature, but don’t know how to resolve this problem. My whole family is emotionally immature. Any thoughts?
What does your roommate being *** have to do with anything? I wish my roommate was ***, *** guys are hilarious
You are in college and never kissed a girl? Chances are it will stay that way unless you miraculously meet somone. Sometimes things suck and in your case the reality is cold. I know it sounds negative but its how it is for me as well. If you don’t meet somone in college you probabally never will… Im sorry.
ummmm why the hell would she act like that just because u asked her out? all you gotta do is change ur lifestyle and work on your self stop worrying about her, i don’t go psycho on ever guy that asks me out. so what u asked her out? she should feel happy that someone sees her worthy of their time. be happy man
yeah well….when you have a kinda intimate relation, and you suddenly stop having that relation then the “bond” you had with that girl (in this case) breaks, so the both are scared of talking; either way because she thinks you “dumped” her or viceversa OR because she thinks you can use her likes and dislikes against her (for some reason) cause that happened to me and a girl explained why.
So yeah Point of view of a guy and a girl.
And about that anxiety take it off by playing world of warcraft or hanging out with friends
yes. you are a failure. but thats why there are a lot of girls out there. trial and error. its okay that she hates you, does she even know youve never had a serious relationship before? cuz i would expect her to have at least a bit of understanding. she’ll get over it. and you’ll get over it. people move on. and then when you see someone you want to know a little better a while later, ask her out. just know that whatever happens, happens. its all in the past and we have to look at what the future holds.
You had the courage to try something, and it didn’t work. So you lost her. You have to have your heart broken a couple times before you can truly love someone, so consider this one less heartbreak you will have to go through down the road.
My brother was 22 before he kissed a girl, and he is now marrying that girl. All of his firsts were with that girl, and that makes it that much more special than if he had kissed 20 other girls before her. As for facebook, be thankful you did it on there and did not have to suffer an embarrassing face to face moment. But in the future I would stay away from text or facebook when asking someone to date you. You need to stick with classy, old fashioned moves which includes asking someone to their face.
Hang in there. When you lose friends you find new ones, and one of your new friends might know a girl that is perfect for you. Just be patient and focus on keeping your grades up so you can treat your future girlfriend as best as possible.
If you two spent a lot of time together,you must of got a chance to say or do something_even if it was small? I’m sure she can tell you’re shy, so why she hasn’t started something with you, I don’t know.I would ask her to do something with you that you two like_assuming she leaves her new friend_or not.
No man you are not a failure just because one girl doesn’t like you does not mean your a failure at all and who cares if you haven’t kissed a girl and even if you are not good around woman doesn’t mean your a failure or a loser at all you just need more experience there are other girls around its all experience my man just find others and try to remain calm you will get better and find someone im positive others will probably try to proclaim your a failure when in all reality there just losers who still live with there parents typing there response to you from their basement